My alcoholic partner stole from me

Case Study: Denise in Hampshire

“Late one afternoon in the summer of 2008, my husband Roger asked me for the PIN number of my debit card. I was in an awful hurry to get to work, and so gave it to him without properly thinking it through. I only had about thirty pounds in the bank at the time, so it wasn’t as if there was a fortune there for him to help himself to!”

“However, when I checked my balance via internet banking at the end of that week, I was horrified to discover that – using my £1000 overdraft facility – Roger had withdrawn a staggering £750 in three days.”

“It later came out that he’d used the money to buy cases of wine and to pay off debts he owed to different pubs and bars across Portsmouth, where he had run up enormous tabs.”

Although Roger had used Denise’s bank card with her permission, he was technically guilty of theft. He had committed a crime, and Denise would have been well within her rights to contact Police and bring charges against him. Yet she didn’t.

A life-transforming decision (for both Roger and Denise)
When Denise’s father-in-law, Miles, offered to pay for Roger to go into a private rehab treatment clinic in Hampshire, Denise decided that, in both the short and long term, Roger getting help for his addiction was the best course of action to take. It proved to be life-transforming.

“Roger begged me not to leave him, which was something I was seriously considering at the time. I allowed him to stay in the marital home only if he sought help for his alcohol abuse. When my father-in-law offered to cover the cost of Roger’s rehab treatment, I was thrilled and incredibly grateful.

Since leaving rehab, Roger has not touched a drop of drink, and has paid back the £750 he took from my account (with interest!)”

So, Denise and Roger’s story has a happy ending. But for thousands of other people across the country, that is not always the case. Every year, countless couples split up due to alcohol-related problems. Even where the drinker is a functioning alcoholic, theft can occur, as their need to buy booze in large quantities becomes their primary concern, their sole focus in life. Money, jewellery, handheld devices and other gadgets, white goods and even TVs may be sold (without their partner’s permission or even their knowledge) to purchase alcohol and/or to settle debts with pubs, clubs and off licences from where the alcoholic in the relationship has regularly bought drink but asked that the cost be “put on the slate”.

Help is only a phone call away
If, like Denise, you have been the victim of theft within your relationship (with an alcoholic), and you would rather tackle the root cause of the problem than simply turn to the Police, contact Rehab Treatment UK TODAY. One of our friendly team will explain all about the different alcohol addiction treatment options available.



I could not stop drinking, having tried various methods. After making contact with Rehab Treatment UK I was put at ease immediately. All my options were carefully explained and 2 days later admitted to Rehab. Without the speedy response I would probably still be drinking today, Already, the home is a happier place. Thank you Jane for starting the process for a life of sobriety.
B. Middlesex

Thank you to Rehab Treatment UK and everyone at the Clinic that was involved in my Detox. It has been hard, but the fun everyone has made it, helped to make it easier.
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