Drinking to excess can make you feel bad afterwards, can’t it? The hangovers, the sluggishness, the prickly eyes, the aches and pains, the vomiting! And we haven’t even got started yet on the impact of alcoholism on mental health…
Low self esteem can often be a secret problem
The link between alcohol dependence and depression is often highlighted in medical features on TV and in the newspapers. But low self esteem as a direct consequence of alcohol literally controlling a person’s life – their outlook, appearance, behaviour – is rarely openly talked about.
What exactly is self esteem?
An individual’s esteem is about:
· How they feel about and value themselves
· Their beliefs, e.g. “I will never find love because I don’t deserve to” or “I will achieve my goals because I am a great person with what it takes to succeed.”
· Positivity and/or negativity in general physical behaviour, including body language and tone of voice
· How an individual copes with and responds to setbacks in life. Do they see being made redundant as the end of the world, or an opportunity to try something new: to change their life for the better? Are they crushed by disappointments, or do they (soon after) throw themselves into new challenges with a positive “I can do it” mindset? Their self esteem will play a huge part in determining all this.
Why is loss of self esteem a bad thing?
How we feel about ourselves can be a key factor in so many situations, and it generally shapes our view of the world itself: our outlook is formed by our own self-image.
Hayley, a 24-year-old hairdresser in Leeds, explains: “Before I sought help for alcoholism I suffered terribly from a lack of self esteem. Prior to Rehab, I had no understanding of mental health and the devastating affect that binge drinking can have on it. My general behaviour socially was appalling, and I got a reputation for being promiscuous. It was all down to the way heavy drinking had basically formed my beliefs, which decided how I saw myself and how I viewed the world. That only started to change after I went to Rehab.”
“I am not saying, of course, that I found an instant cure”
Hayley continues: “Increased self esteem doesn’t happen overnight, of course. It is a gradual process. For me, finding some final scrap of self worth within myself to confront my addiction meant that I still felt my life was worth living, and that I was a person who deserved better. The brilliant counsellors at the private Rehab Clinic in Lancashire helped me to build on that, and gave me the tools I needed to prevent any relapse once I got home after my six-week stay.”
Get your self esteem and self confidence back
Are you struggling with alcoholism and want to do something about it? Has your drinking led to low self esteem, and you simply don’t like yourself anymore?